Welcome :D

Hi there, if you reached here it’s probably because of the promo I’ve  been doing or because you’re bored so you decided to check me out or perhaps it’s because the words ‘Big’, ‘Beautiful’ or ‘Brave’ are related to you.

I’ve always wanted to be a writer and if you know me you will also know that for years I’ve been trying to find something to write about. I’ve dabbled in stories, poems & articles but I never seem to be content with what I’m writing.

Not anymore.

If you follow me Instagram or Facebook you’ll notice that over the last few days I’ve been talking about how plus sized girls need to be also recognised as beautiful in society. Being a big girl myself I faced a lot of self confidence issues over the years & so I’ve decided to start a blog helping big girls feel beautuful in their own skin. Hopefully I will be able to bring something new to this blog every week & my passion for writing doesn’t die down this time.

The first post on ‘My Experience’ will be up next week & hopefully you will enjoy it. In  it I will be talking about what it’s like to be a big girl in a world where skinny is everyone’s first choice.

Also, I have nothing against skinny girls because I know whether you’re thin or fat, we all have our struggles, this is just my view.

Until next week stay Big, Beautiful & Brave 💜

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Clothes & Confidence

Hey Big, Beautiful & Brave people of the universe, it’s been a whike hasn’t it?
Like promised today’s going to be all about ‘Clothes & Confidence’. ✌

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The reason I used the term ‘clothes’ before confidence because I personally feel that unless you feel good in what clothes you’re wearing there’s going to be a hint of doubt in the back of your mind whether you look good enough or not, & that’s always a worry for big girls. You could be out shopping in your sweatpants & a t-shirt, but if you feel good, it doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks. 🙂

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Usually when big girls wear clothes that are a bit too tight it’s termed as vulgur or inappropriate even though it’s the same as what other girls wear. It’s better to take careof what you are wearing because even though there are people who say they don’t care, they are the most judgemental people. 😒
You also have to keep in mind that not all clothes fit the big body type. You can’t go out wearing a t-shirt 2 sizes too small & expect it look great on you because it won’t. Wear clothes that cover the areas of your body that you feel uncomfortable with. 👌

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When it comes to me personally, I prefer wearing clothes that cover my stomach & thighs because they are not my best features. But I love to wear dresses that show off my legs. 🙄
I’m no fashion expert so I can’t tell you to wear this & don’t wear that, but you know what are your best & not so great features & you know from past experiences what makes you look good & what doesn’t. 💖
But remember, there are going to be days when you’re out in a group & you feel that someone else looks better than you even when you started out from home all confident, this is completely normal & has happened to me one too many times. But,  you have to keep in mind that even if you feel like you’re not beautful enough, others may be jealous of you or there might be guys thinking that you are the most beautiful girl in the room. 👧

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All you have to do is remember to let your confidence show because that will let your personality shine through & if you can win them with that, I don’t think anyone will care that you are big. 😀
Everyone has different personality & all you have to do is find a way to stand out from the crowd because at the end of the day that is what defines who you are. 😉

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So that’s it for today. The next post will be on, ‘Does Your Size Matter To Guys?’, until then, Stay Big, Beautiful & Brave. 💜

My Experience 💜

Hey Big, Beautiful & Brave people of the universe, you are about to enter the most complicated arcade in this world i.e. my head. I mean, of course it’s complicated, isn’t everyone’s head filled with numerous thoughts, ideas, memories, wishes, dreams, regrets etc. In my opinion all these things together create some really complicated stuff.🌷

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Anyways, moving on to what you’ll have been waiting for (or not), my experience as a big girl in a world where being skinny is more important. 👧

So, first thing’s first, I’m not a plus size girl, I do not have to go to the 18-24 section to buy clothes BUT I am still a big girl (Yes we do exist). 👍

I used to be a super skinny kid with all bones & no flesh but when puberty hit me I gained a lot of weight. I don’t think my weight really mattered that much to me until I turned 15 & started noticing how thin the other girls at school were while I looked like a pumpkin in comparison to them. 💔

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There are times when I try on clothes & nothing looks good on me. An incident took place a few years ago when I went shopping, we went to this shop whrere I tried on multiple clothes, nothing fit & I just had a break down. I started crying my eyes out in the change room. I was upset & angry at the same time. Upset obviously because nothing fit & angry at myself for being so big. 😥

While everyone else at school seemeed to be comfortable just the way they were, everyday my insecurities got the better of me. 😐

The school uniform at that time didn’t help at all. Because I had (& still have) a small paunch it was next to impossible to try & make it work. I think one of the main reasons I was happy when my school life ended was because of the uniform. 😂

I was never teased about my weight, but I think it was the fact that in my mind I never fit in because of my weight. This made me a shy girl in school & I ended up being that friend that was out of place in our group. 😓
But this was all in school. ✌

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When I started college I made new friends & somehow I never felt out of place. No, they’re not big like me, but somehow around them my insecurities went away. Also, in college I have my own style & luckily we have no uniforn so it helps boost my confidence a lot.💜
Sometimes I still do wish that I was skinny but then I remember that there are many girls out there just like me includung celebrities like Meghan Trainor & Kelly Clarkson who are big & beautiful, like me. 🙂

I’m 19 & I haven’t lost (or gained) any weight since I was 16. I’m still the same & I don’t mind one bit. 😉

So, this has been my experience being a big girl. The next post will be, ‘Clothes & Confidence’. 👱

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Until next time Stay Big, Beautiful & Brave. 💜